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Advising a Young Lady to Refuse Gifts from Gentlemen.
been a suc-
Momsenille, O., Pek 2, 18-
You leblet of the esth “ To what do ult. is before me. I segue la leer that you
you attribute your success?”' “ To an admonition accepled' of a bracelet at the hands of İlm. given me by my father, when a
Spencer. By all means telun il. In its boy, which was this: 66. First, to attend strictly to my ecceplance you place youuelf undet obliga: own business. Second, to let other
tions to him, as man would to any one from people's business alone. Observing this, I incurred no ill will by inter tuhom you accept presents, unless you sender meddling with others, and I saved
an equivalent. my time for the development and improvement of my own business." Holthing will move onsely injuse a yomg Be very sparing of letters of
lady's repntalion than the acceptance of advice. As a rule, you will have enough to do to attend to your many presents from different young men. own affairs, and as a general thing, advice even when solicited is liable
When manied, the zifts of your husbond, to give offence.
will come hallawed with his affection) If however, you are asked to give
Vintil then, tefesse gifts from all gentlemen. an opinion, you may plainly state it. Do not give it however as a I am, law, nor feel offended if your advice is disregarded. :
Yom Sincere Friend, Beware of giving advice from selfishness. Sooner or later your motive will be discovered. Let your admonition be alone for the interest and welfare of your friend. If you | which you advise the person to pursue, you may expect, however, to be benefited by the course | frankly state so.
Letter of Advice to a Young Man to beware of Bad Company.
WASHINGTON, D.C., Jan 1, 18—, MY DEAR YOUNG FRIEND:
I observe by the tone of your last letter, that you are becoming very intimate with Henry Hubbard and Barney McIntosh, I need not tell you that your letter has given me much uneasiness. These young men are bad characters, and you cannot continue your association with them, without contaminating your morals.
I am an old man, and I write this, my boy, with a most earnest desire for your happiness. You have acquired a fine education, and bave entered upon your profession with every prospect of success. You have a widowed mother to support, and an orphaned sister looking to you for guidance. It becomes you therefore to maintain a reputation unsullied, and obtain a good credit, which to a young man in the commencement of a business career, is equal to a large capital of itself.
Association with these young men will certainly carry you down. ward. They are both withont employment, they drive fast horses, tbey wear flash jewelry, they frequent gambling houses, they both use intoxicating drink, chew tobacco, and talk profane language. What would you think of another that inight be seen in their company? People will judge you as you would judge any one else. There is much truth in the old proverb, “A man is known by the company be keeps," and I would have your company such as will reflect the highest honor upon yourself.
I bave written this letter earnestly and strongly, for I believe your good judgment will take it kindly; and I trust, when yon sincerely retlect upon the matter, you will at once dismiss that class of associates from your company.
Your eamest Well-wisher
2.- Dress. In cold weather, dress warmly with underclothing, Remove muffler, overcoat, overshoes, &c., when remaining any con. siderable length of lime in a warm room. Keep your feet warm and dry. Wash them, in warm water, two or three times a week. Wear warm stockings, large boots, and overshoes when in the snow or wet. Wear a light covering on the head, keeping it always cool.
3.-Cleanliness. Have always a pint or quart of water in the sleeping room. In the morning after washing and wiping hands and face, then wet, with the bands, every part of the body. Cold water will not be disagreeable when applying it with the baru hands. Wipe immediately: follow by brisk rubbing over the body. The whole operation need not take over five minutes. The result of this was! is, the blood is brought to the surface of the skin and made to circulate evenly throughout the body. You have opened the pores of the skin, allow. ing impurities in the body to pass off, and have given yourself in the operation, a good vigorous morning exercise. "Pursue this babit regularly, and you will seldom take cold.
4.- Inflation of the Lungs. Five minutes spent in the open air, after dressins, inflating the lungs, by inhaling as full a breath as possible, and pounding the breast during the inflation, will greatly enlarge the chesi, strengthen the lung power, and very cffectually ward off consumption.
5.- Drel. If inclined to be dyspeptic, avoid mince pic, fansage, and other bighly seasoned food. Beware of cating too freely of soups; better to eat food dry enough to employ the natural saliva of ihe month in moistening it. If inclined to over-eat, partake freely of rice, cracked wheat, and other articles that are easily digested.
Eat freely of ripe fruit, and avoid cxcessive use of meats. Eat at rerular hours, and lihtly near the hour of going to bed. Eat slowly. Thoroughly masticate the food. Do not wash it down with continual drink while eating. Tell your funniest stories while at the table, and for an hour afterwards. Do not engage in severe mentai labor directly after hearty eating
6.-E.cercise. Exercise, not too violent, but suficient to produce a gentle perspiration, should be had each day in the open air.
7.- Condilion of Mind. The condition of the mind has much to do with health. Be hopeful and joyous. To be 80, avoid business en. tanglements that may cause perplexity and auxiety. Keep out of debt. Live within your income. Attend church. Walk, ride, mix in jovial company. Do as nearly right as you know how. This conscience will always be at ease. If occasionally disappointed, remember that there is no rose without a thorn, and ibat the darkest clouds have a silver lining; that sunshine follows storm, and beautiful spring follows the dreary winter. Do your duty, and leave the rest to God who docth all things well. loping to hear of your continued prosperity and recovery of health,
Your very Sincere Friend, ALLEN MATLOCK.
SIBLEY JOHNSON, M. D.
Advising a Young Man against a Hurried Marriage.
ROTLAND, VT., April 5, 18FRIEND CHARLES:
You ask me if you will not act the wiser part by marrying Miss Manchester at ouce, and settling yourself permanently; and yet you inform me that it bas been but three weeks since you first made her acquaintance. You may possibly be in jest, and perhaps in earnest; in either case, as you ask my advice, I can bnt give it.
The choosing of a life companion, dear Charles, is a too serious matter to be so hastily decided. The selection of a partner for a dance or a ride may be of little moment. The choice of an associate for business may be determined in a short time; but the acceptance of a partner for life requires the most serious deliberation. You should take ample time for the study of the character, temperament, disposition and accomplishments of the lady whom you choose to be the sharer of your labors, joys, sorrows, reverses and prosperity.
Upon this step hangs a large share of your happiness in life. Do not act too bastily. Trusting however, that I will some day sce you happily married aud scttled, I am as ever,
Your most Sincere Friend,
Advice to an Orphan Boy.
ARLINGTON, N. C., June 7, 18, My Dear Charlie:
I received your letter last evening. I was greatly pleased to hear that you have secured a position with Colby, Henderson & Co., and that your sisters are comfortably situated in their new homes. You ask me for advice as to what you shall do to maintain the good opinion of your employers, and thus ultimately, prosperously establish yoursell.
This desire that you evince to please is one of the very best evi. dences that you will please. Your question is very commendable. Ilow can you succeed? That should be the great question with all young men. It is best answered, perhaps, by the reply of the wealthy and honored old man who gave this advice to his grandsou:
“My boy, take the admonition of an old man who has seen every phase of human life.
"If I could give you but one precept to follow, it would be, Keep good company. But, adding more, I will say:
“Be truthful; you thus always have the confidence of others. “Bu temperate; thus doing, you preserve health and money.
“Be industrious; you will then be constantly adding to your acquisitions.
“ Be economical; thus you will be saving for the rainy day. “Be cautious; you are not then so liable to lose the work of years. * Be polite and kind; scattering words of kindness, they are reflected back upon yourself, continually adding to your happiness."
Observe these directions and you will prosper. With many wishes for your success, remember I am always
Advice to a Gentleman on the Subject of Health.
Boston, Mass., May 6, 18—. My DEAR FRIEND:
Yours of the 2nd inst. is before me. I am pleased with the prospect that you report in your business, but regret that you should feel discouraged about your health. You ask me what you had better do; I will answer.
The first great secret of good health is good habits; and the next is regularity of habits. They are briefly summed up in the following rules:
1.- Sleep. Give yourself the necessary amount of sleep. Some men require five hours of the twenty-four; others need eight. Avoid feather beds. Sleep in a garment not worn during the day. To maintain robust health, sleep with a person as healthy as yourself, or no one.
Apologizing for Failure to Pay Money Promptly. ETTERS of Excuse should be written
DANBY, N. Y., July 11, 18–. as promptly as may be.
MR. D. B. FRISBIE,
Dear Sir: :
I very much regret that the failure of H. Cole
& Son, will prcvcnt my payment of your note on the 20th instant, with. caused by yourself, you should, if pos
out serious inconvenience to myself. I shall be able to pay it, howev. sible, repair immediately, with inter
er, promptly on the 25th. Should the five days delay seriously iucom.
mode you, please write me at once, and I will aim to procure the est.
money from another source. In apologizing for misconduct, failing to meet
Your Obedient Servant,
DANIEL FRAZIER. an engagement, or for lack of punctuality, always state the reason why.
Excuse to a Teacher for Non-attendance of Child at School. By fulfilling every engagement promptly, dis
WEDNESDAY MORNING, Sept. 4, 18, charging every obligation when due, and always
You will please excuse Gertrude for non-attendance at being punctual, you thereby entirely avoid the
school yesterday afternoou, she being detained in cousequence of a
severe headache. necessity for an excuse.
MARCIA BARROWS. Any article borrowed by measure, be certain to return in larger quantity and better quality, Apology for Breaking a Business Engagement. to make up the interest. To fail to make good
MONTICELLO, ILL., Oct. 15, 18–. that which has been borrowed is the certain | Mr. Paul D. WARREN,
MR. PAUL D. WARREN,
Kensington. loss of credit and business reputation in the Dear Su :
'I very much regret being compelled to apologize neighborhood where you live. No letter of
for not meeting yon at the railrond meeting in Salem last Saturday, as apology can make amends for neglecting to pay I agreed to do. The cause of my detention was the sudden and severe
illness of my youngest child, whose life for a time we despaired of. your debts.
Please write me the result of the meeting. Hoping that the arrange. ments we auticipated were perfected, I am
Apology for Delay in Returning a Book,
KENTLAND, IND., Nov. 19, 18–.
MY DEAR AMY: to keep my appointment this evening. You will, however, I know,
You must excuse my long delay in returning your forgive me wben I explain. When about to proceed to your residence book. The truth is, it has been the rounds for several to read, though my borse, being very restive, became so frightened at an object by the it has not been out of our house. When I had nearly finished its read. roadside as to cause bis runaway, throwing me violently to the ground, ing, Aunt Mary became interested in its contents and read it through. breaking an arm, and completely demolishing my carriage. Regret. Her glowing description of the character of the work caused mother ting my failure to keep my engagement, I am yet rejoiced that the to peruse it; so that we have kept it from you several weeks. We feel accident occurred before you bad entered the carriage.
very grateful to you, however, for furnishing us such an intellectual Trusting that my excuse is a sufficient apology, i remaid,
feast, and hope to have the pleasure of doing you a like favor. Your Faithful Friend,
Truly Your Friend,
Answer Refusing the Request.
LISBON, ILL., Feb. 2, 18– FRIEND HASKINS:
I regret that all the money I have at liberty I am compelled to use this afternoon; else I would comply with your
JOHN BAKER. often be compelled to write a let
Requesting a Letter of Introduction. ter asking a favor.
SPRINGFIELD, Mass., March 4, 18. Do not urge your claims too FRIEND Ricu:
I start for Boston to-morrow, to make arrangements y strongly. Should you be refused, for our Excursion. I shall arrange to have the journey extend as far you would feel the more deeply
as the Holy Land. Be so kind, if you please, as to give me a letter of
introduction to Prof. Wm. Kidder, whom I hope, also, to enlist in the CASE humiliated.
scheme. 2 In conferring a favor, avoid
With warmest regards to your family, I remain,
Very Truly Yonrs, conveying the impression that the recipient is
HENRY FRENCII. greatly under obligation to you. Rather imply
Reply Granting the Request. that the granting and accepting of the favor is
SPARTA, R. I., March 6, 18– mutually a pleasure.
I cnclose, with pleasure, the letter to Prof. Kidder, Letters refusing a favor should be very kindly who, I think, will be pleased to join us. Wishing you much success.
Yours Truly, worded, and while expressing regret at your
BARTON RICII. inability to comply with the request, state the
Requesting the Loan of an Opera Glass. reason why.
THURSDAY AFTERNOON, April 7, 18—. DEAR MABEL:
Accompanied by cousin Fred and Jennie Masters, I am Requesting the Loan of a Book.
going to the theater to-night, and in behalf of Fred I wish you would WEDNESDAY MORNING, Jan. 1, 18— loan me your opera glass for the evening.
BECKIE NOWELL. DEAR BERTHA:
Will you be so kind as to loan me, for a few days, "How
Answer Refusing the Request.
THURSDAY, April 7, 18–
Charlie Hackney called and borrowed my glass about
an hour since. Otherwise I would take the greatest pleasure in grantReply Granting the Favor.
ing your request. Wishing you a delightful evening, I am,
Your Devoted Friend,
MABEL GALE. enjoy its perusal as much as I did. I shall be over to se“ you next Thursday afternoon.
Requesting the Loan of a Pistol.
FRIDAY MORN., May 8, 18.
Please loan me your pistol this forenoon, and oblige Requesting a Loan of Money.
Reply Granting the Request.
FRIDAY, May 8, 18—. dollars until Wednesday of next week? llaving several large collec FRIEND JOHN: tions to make during the next three days, I may return the loan before
Accept the pistol. Beware that you do not get hurt. I then.
Form of Letter Accompanying Photographs.
97 SUALLY, in sending
gifts, it is customary to accompany the same with a prettily written note. Such letters, with their answers,
are very brief, and are usually written in the third person, unless among relatives or very intimate friends.
Though a reply should be given immediately, no haste need be made in repaying the gift, else it would seem that you feel the obligation, and will experience relief by paying the debt.